– Kate Kaden
I did not plan to be a single mother. In fact, if you’d asked me in college, I would have told you I didn’t plan on being anyone’s wife either. But I was. And seven years later it was over. Divorce is no joke, my friends. It’s traumatizing even when you know
it’s the healthiest option for your and your family. The pain I felt was unlike anything I had ever experienced before. It was amplified because now I had this beautiful baby boy to cherish and how was I going to navigate this when my heart was broken in a
Most nights, after I put my son to bed, I would cry. Partly due to sadness, but partly due to relief. I had been in such a stressful situation for so long, I could finally breathe again. Deep down I knew I could do anything I wanted to do. I felt inner strength
even when on the outside it looked like I couldn’t be in a more dire situation. I knew I could change everything, but I had to take small steps in the right direction.
Mamas can’t crumble in times of despair. Like a phoenix (see what I did there?), we must rise. There are no time outs. There are no do overs. You must make decisions on how you will proceed even after the hardest times. Crumble? Or Conquer? I chose conquer.
One of the things you can control is your personal finances. Money doesn’t have wings. We are the ones who give it flight. In chaotic times, getting a handle on my budget gave me a sense of control. I got really good at it with practice. I decided I wanted to
share my knowledge to help others and encourage them to know that anyone can get a handle on their finances and thrive. When you are in a tough spot, find a way. Make a way.
I was a huge fan of YouTube. I watched it frequently and often thought, “I could totally do that.” My voice had always been one of my biggest strengths, but getting on camera is a little different. There is no immediate audience reacting in the moment. It was
me and my camera and I couldn’t be sure that anyone wanted to hear what I wanted to say once I recorded, edited and pressed publish.
I had to try. I knew there were a lot of other mamas out there, like me, now navigating through this life alone and might need to feel like someone was in their corner. I started recording one to two times a week. Every comment on my video I would treat as a
precious treasure and priceless connection. I’d reply with joy and respect that they took the time to watch and respond. Seven months into my YouTube journey, we are now nearly 6000 subscribers strong! Every week I upload videos trying to help encourage and
motivate others to live a more frugal, simple, joyful, mindful life with a unique monthly written budget. My channel is called Kate Kaden. Kaden (my precious son) continues to me my ultimate inspiration to create a life for him that is delightful and purposeful.
My subscribers are affectionately named the K Squad and I could not be more grateful for the community we have established together.
You are meant to thrive! If you are contemplating whether you are going to crumble or conquer…always choose conquer. Decide what matters to you and then remember that is all that matters.